I do a couple of the things that Comrademoomoo mentioned. I have this calming essential oil roll-on that I would always put on before virtual sessions, and I associate that smell with seeing my T. I try to remember to put it on before video sessions, and it helps. I'm generally drinking the same "fizzy water" (Perrier or San Pellegrino) that I did in person, and T is drinking his coffee in a travel mug.

It also helps that my T is doing most of the sessions from him regular office rather than his home. If your T is at his home (and you don't normally meet him there), I wonder if he could bring something from his office that you could see?


I find it also helps to do a little chatting about lighter things some sessions to help with the connection (well, I guess I did that in person as well). And joking around a bit at times (including dark humor when I'm not in the best place). Seeing my T smile and hearing him laugh helps me feel connected and comforted that it's still *him*. I'm not sure what your T's personality is like, if he'd be willing to be a bit more relaxed for part of a session.


And something small like waving hello and/or goodbye could help. I also find it helps for me to be the one to end sessions--I specifically requested this early on, and he always lets me be the one to "leave meeting." Just a few thoughts.