There's a principle in Al-Anon that states that "You didn't Cause it, You can't Control it, and You can't Change it." I think that goes for situations like this. As a parent you can want everything in the world for your child and try to guide them along the way, but ultimately a person has to own their decisions and the consequences of those decisions. No matter how much we want to help them grow and be responsible, sometimes consequences are the best teachers.

I would try to encourage you to be compassionate and not blame yourself for not working. You didn't "set an example" or guide her down the path of not working. You did model for her how important it is to meet yourself where you're at and focus on yourself and your recovery. If anything that's the important lesson. Plus, there's probably some mind reading going on where you assumed that the lesson she learned was that it was not okay to work, when she may have interpreted things differently for herself.

Bottom line, you didn't cause her issues and you also can't fix them for her. You can take care of yourself and love from a distance. She will grow on her own schedule, and you will still love and support her the best you can. Sending good thoughts your way.