@sarahsweets, does your daughter have ADHD like you? It's definitely inherited. Also, what I have learned from listening to my husband talk about others that are in the program (many of them struggle with ADHD) is how they tend to sabatoge when things are going good for them. I hear his anger "man, he was doing so well, making good money and yet he screwed himself AGAIN!".

Maybe that is a deep fear of your daughter's in that when she is doing well, SOMETHING, will end up ruining it and without realizing it she "runs/flight" from whatever it is as an escape and form of control. Often this is a subconscious issue where the individual isn't consciously aware of "why" they run from certain things. When a job is lost it brings a sense of relief in the person instead of a bad feeling. This kind of challenge is very hard for a person to articulate. Often with ADHD there is a lot of "performance anxiety". I see this all the time in my husband who struggles with both ADHD and dyslexia which often present together. It's not a lack of intelligence either, instead it's more of being over stimulated and needing to keep busy in a certain way that is different than others who don't have the challenge.

I have someone that I have help me once in a while when I get overwhelmed and behind on my farm work. He has ADHD bad and I have to be here to keep him to task as he can get distracted and he isn't always dependable in terms of actually showing up to work either. (he is also a recovering alcoholic in his early 20's). Yet, he also has a pattern of getting a good job and messing it up which is frustrating to anyone that tries to help him. Typically, they prefer to work at their own pace in their own way. I have had to learn a lot about it as I have been married to a man that has this challenge going on 40 years now. Actually, my husband's father also has ADHD and my husband can get so impatient with his father even though they both have the same challenge. I can't even sit and watch an entire movie without my husband interrupting it in some way.

Perhaps your daughter needs to have therapy for this challenge and find something she can do that is more agreeable to how her mind operates. It's not a lack of intelligence, but more of a busy mind that gets bored quickly and is already multi tasking.