Edahn, welcome to Psych Central. This is a SUPPORT community. It is not a debating or berating place so please be mindful of that when talking with other members.

You do have much to learn when joining a supportive community such as this. Most people have their own therapist and are not looking for another therapist, or someone to point out what they feel is wrong with how people support each other here.

Besides that, if you are trying to become a therapist or are a therapist the very first thing you need to learn is EMPATHY! Hugs = empathy and understanding.