Hoo boy. My SIL is fired up! I found out by accident that my late husband’s aunt on his father’s side invited “all” her grand nieces and nephews to a Halloween party at her house. Funny enough, my son was excluded. When my SIL asked if he could come, she got all shady and said that ok, he could come, but she didn’t want me in the house “because of covid” so he would have to come with my SIL. I laughed and told my SIL to tell her to **** right off. None of them have spoken to me since my husband died so why the hell would I send my son to a house full of strangers, especially when he’s clearly not wanted? Yeah right.

She then asked her cousins why they surreptitiously unfriended her on FB and they all FREAKED OUT, calling her names and cursing at her. Which I fully believe. They are all evil, manipulative narcissists, every last one of them. None of them ever made an effort to get to know me OR my son, even when my husband was alive. They treated my husband like dirt, and by extension me and my son. The matriarch was the worst of them all. She was a petty evil witch who got pleasure in turning people against each other and playing the victim. She turned everyone against me by spreading a rumor that I had demanded my husband’s funeral be “invite only”. Who has ever heard of a funeral being invite only? What I said was it was FAMILY only because I didn’t want any of his addict friends there. They are all nasty people. I’m glad they don’t want me in their lives. I certainly don’t want them in mine or my son’s. I’m hesitant to even allow my FIL in his life for the way he has treated me in the past. I only bring my son there once or twice a year, and ONLY because he keeps his ****ing mouth shut around me now.

I told her just to cut them off completely. Block them on all social media and block their numbers from her phone. They are sure to drag her through the mud publicly. We’re all better off without them.

I felt slightly better today. I think I’ll be fine by Thursday.

I’ve also come to the conclusion that my mom will be cut off as well. Not completely; I’m just cutting her off from any help with anything at all until she makes an effort to help herself. The only reason I’ll remind her to pay cable is so my son can still have internet when he goes to her house for remote school. Other than that she will have to lie in her bed that she made. She’s always had someone to take care of her, whether it was me or my grandmother. Well when my grandmother died she’s in for a rude awakening. I’ll care for her if she becomes disabled in some way but I’m done being her therapist and giving her suggestions for a better life.