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I see my low-post count as an advantage, not an obstacle. It gives me a fresh perspective of this forum that seasoned members may not be able to tap in to.

So, I ask you, is it a hug, or a bruise in disguise?

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It would be a mistake to underestimate the value of time and experience in this venue Edahn. Also the construct of patience in dealing with issues of mind and heart which are inexplicably intertwined within our shared issues here, is simply priceless. Your few posts had included some valid advice but your chosen tone and methods have succeeded in some level of alienation. That may serve you and your flag and if so then so be it...but if your aim is not your ego then maybe a change of tact would be of service to us all...

A hug is only a hug. It becomes a bruise if it comes with expectations...

IMHO.

Lenny

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Lenny,

My tone is truthful, accepting, and forthcoming. I play it by ear and do my best.

This is how I understand the response I've received in this thread, so far. I'm going to speculate a little bit, too. It seems that there is an atmosphere of unconditional support here. It is taboo to criticize members, even when that criticism can help them, and even when they're clearly seeking help. Why? Because people are afraid to confront pain and work hard to bury it and obscure it. This isn't the first site I've been to that has this kind of atmosphere, and it's not surprising that it shows up in a site like this that is largely composed of people, like myself, who are seeking relief from their pain, a pain that they are used to running from, and a pain that they are still running from.

I'm not perfect, and I have my own issues, granted. But I'll do what I can to help people here, even if that requires getting my hands a little dirty. Because I'm an %#@&#!? No. Well, maybe. But I care and am willing to do the dirty work. I'll do what I can. If I get banned in the next couple days, so be it. But it'll be a loss for me and for this site.

Thanks for your opinions, Len. I appreciate them truly.