well because my hub is unstable after i asked him for the divorce. my pdoc suggested that i say that we would seperate first and use that time to reflect. (whatever) so i did that. but it backfired because my hub took that as oh well we are going to work this thing out. i have had it with his non-chalant attitude about this whole thing. and i told him that the seperation is going to ultimately lead to a divorce. so of course he threatened me about the car again and told me i have to get my own insurance (we are under his name, combined). blah blah blah. he told me that i cannot sleep in our room. that i better find someplace else to sleep. i told him that he has to leave as soon as possible. he told me it will be a couple of months before he can go. i told him that cannot be. i cannot live with him for a couple of months!! that'll drive me nuts. i am so tired of being nice to him. because every time i try to be honest with him he becomes vindictive. well u know what that is it, i am done with being the nice one in this relationship if he wants a war then there will be a war.