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Old Sep 23, 2020, 06:47 AM
guy1111 guy1111 is offline
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes View Post
Four sessions isn't very many guy. It is very probable that you are triggering each other and a good therapist will look into the behavior patterns that can stem from one's history. But that can take time and the idea is to help a couple understand each other better so they interact with their partner in ways that respect some of these challenges. Many members here do understand why her flirting triggers you, and it sounds like your wife doesn't get it. Yet, you also have done things that trigger her as well. And the whole point of this therapy is to find ways to change that problem you experience with each other.

Honestly, I met a woman that has a relationship therapist that her and her husband have met with for years, not so much to fix problems but to keep them on track with understanding each other's needs so their relationship stays healthy.
Ok, that gives me some hope! We had a minor breakthrough in therapy last night! The therapist explained how me always trying to be super understanding of her issues is kind of being co-dependant. Like I should be letter her fall down now and then or actually get upset with her for ranting all the time. And then I was able to get her to say sorry for making me feel like I can't express myself. I guess I will have to be more patient with this process.
Thanks for this!
Open Eyes