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Old Sep 23, 2020, 01:54 PM
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Ok, that gives me some hope! We had a minor breakthrough in therapy last night! The therapist explained how me always trying to be super understanding of her issues is kind of being co-dependant. Like I should be letter her fall down now and then or actually get upset with her for ranting all the time. And then I was able to get her to say sorry for making me feel like I can't express myself. I guess I will have to be more patient with this process.
That is good that you had that break through in last night's session. It was also good that this therapist (in front of your wife) talked about how you slip into being codependent, something both of you need to realize. Your wife needs to understand how some of her behaviors can hurt you where you distance and stay quiet when instead you need to communicate with her when she IS behaving selfishly.
Thanks for this!
guy1111