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Hello FemaleLover: I see this is your first post here on PC. Welcome to Psych Central.

I'm not a mental health professional. But, from what you wrote, it doesn't sound as though there's really a problem here. You simply have a very strong attraction to the female sex. Perhaps your attraction is a bit stronger than is that of other heterosexual men. But I suspect most heterosexual men wouldn't really be far behind you if they were honest about it.

To me, what you wrote sounds similar to fetishes in one sense. Fetishes are generally not considered to be a mental health issue in-&-of themselves. The only circumstances under which a fetish becomes a mental health issue is when it has a negative effect on the person who has the fetish such as guilt, shame, or causing the person to get themselves into situations where they might get into trouble in some way or other. Otherwise fetishes are viewed simply as being harmless quirks of human sexuality... or "kinks" as they are sometimes referred to.

So, in your case, as long as your love of the female sex isn't causing you undue guilt & shame, or causing you to get yourself into trouble (legal or otherwise) then perhaps it's simply a unique part of your psychological make-up & not really something to be unduly concerned about? At least that would be my personal non-professional perspective on the situation given what you wrote. If on the other hand you feel your attraction to the female sex is causing you difficulty, perhaps seeing a mental health therapist who has experience in working with human-sexuality issues may be something to consider.

One thing I did note, in your post, is that you've been viewing & downloading porn. This can have some potential problems that perhaps ought to be noted. Here are links to 5 articles, from Psych Central's archives, on the subject:

The Power of Porn: Attention, Hyperfocus and Dissociation

How Pornography Can Hurt Your Sex Life

Does Watching Porn Affect Intimate Relationships? (Part One: Men)

Sexual Dysfunction: The Escalating Price of Abusing Porn

Legal Traps for Internet Porn Users: 5 Ways You Can Get in Trouble

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.
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