What I have learned is that it is good to be specific in what you need in a friend. For instance I have silly hang out friends that I can just goof off and say whatever with. I don't really talk about anything deep with them but that's ok. Then I have friends I can confide in, but I tend to be more reserved with them because they tend to be more sensitive.

You can find the former at a bowling alley, disc golf course, etc. The latter you can find at self help groups, churches, etc.

And some friends are in between or don't fall into any specific category. The key I learned is to let go of too many expectations. Friends are just friends.