I agree with you @KBMK and that is why I am trying to listen as carefully as I can to guy because he has deep wounds from his time experiencing narcissistic abuse in his history. He is trying very hard to work through that challenge with his therapist. I empathize with that in that I do know what that is like first hand and I am sure others can sympathize as well. Yes, it's possible that his wife has some issues with narcissism but it's also possible she has her own challenges that get triggered too. This is something that as you mentioned will reveal itself with time.