Dear 17Dar,

I am so sorry that this happened to you. It is so heartbreaking! I wish I had some wisdom to share, but sadly I am at a loss. Hopefully your relationship will transcend this incident and be better than before. I think your thoughts and feelings are very understandable. I hope others here will have better ideas and words than mine. Sometimes out of misfortune can come greater happiness. My wish is that this will happen to you!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen