Hi Kemi,

I'm sorry you are going through so much pain. But the truth is he cant face his own demons and instead is making you feel like you did something wrong. Classic Narcissistic behavior. Most importantly you need to remember that his behavior is not about you. You need to be strong and think about what will happen if you do get divorced. Will you be stable financially without him?

You need to be selfish and think about yourself at this time.

In my culture at this point a family meeting would be called to try resolve the issues. Its hard to think of an end but unless he is willing to talk to you and work things out it will be necessary.

And please do remember that the end of a marriage is not the end of Life. Its just a new beginning.