The main problem is your mom. She is a TROUBLE MAKER. She has been undermining your self-esteem ALL YOUR LIFE.

You want your mom to love and value and respect you. But she never quite gives you the approval you want from a mother. You hunger for that. But she's left you hungry for that all your life.

It's time to stop letting Mama do this to you. No one can MAKE you feel guilty. You can only feel guilty, if you choose to let yourself be dominated by others. It's time to say: "I run my life, not Mama."

You can still love your mom. You can still love your sister and her husband. (Your sister is a victim of Mama too.) Love does not mean letting others make a fool of you.

Your mother is never going to give you what you want and deserve as a good and decent daughter. That's sad. I'm sorry you got cheated like that. But that is the reality of your relationship with your mother. It is what it is. She won't change. You have to be the bigger person and love her, even though she has a twisted way of thinking. Go ahead and love her . . . but stop being her fool.

Once you learn how to handle Mama, you'll have no trouble handling your sister . . . or anyone else you meet in life. Step #1 - don't explain yourself to any of your family. (That's how you get sucked into stupid arguments.) Just say: "No. I'm very sorry, but, no. I wish I was rich and could buy everything for everybody, but no. I can't and I won't, but I still love everyone."

They will end up having more respect for you . . . later on in life. More importantly, you will have more respect for yourself.

When you come from a home where a parent didn't give you the approval you needed, you have to give it to yourself.