My friend lives across the country. She, on the West Coast; Me, Midwest.

We met in college and became close until she moved in 2012 for medical school. We stayed in touch for a long time, off and on, through letters, gifts, phone calls, maid of honor in her wedding. I have even flown out twice to visit her by myself to hang out. This past holiday season, I sent some tea for a gift from one of my favorite tea shops in NYC.

This year we caught up, filled each other in on details in our lives, and I thought that our friendship was picking up speed again. We were texting a lot back and forth and checking in periodically.

Last month, we set up times to do video calls twice. Both times, I called her. She left me hanging only to text back hours later that she had just seen a missed call/text. This week, she texted back again and I decided to give it another chance.

Called twice, no answer on any platform. Is this a friendship that is past its time? Why do I invest in this if there is nothing in return? Do I respond to this person with how upset I am or just leave it?