Mine doesn't officially give set times, but after I've been seeing him for a few months, he starting my usual slots open to me and offering them to me when I schedule. I still set the schedule with him each Monday (for a couple times each week). Though he has let me schedule in advance before, like if I knew I had a vacation or other conflict coming up. And he always has enough slots for me. But it's not the same as when we saw ex-marriage counselor, and he had us set as 2 pm on Mondays, like put us on a recurring calendar meeting.


Ex-T would never do a regular schedule or hold a specific slot for me. And it was more challenging because she only worked 3 days a week. She usually would say she had x time open, and I could basically take it or leave it. One week, she forgot to leave any slots open for me and booked herself completely, and it was really painful for me. I asked her at one point about setting a regular weekly slot, and she said it wouldn't be fair to her biweekly clients (???).


I feel it's better if they offer you set slots. I'm OK with my T doing that sort of unofficially, plus I also have a flexible schedule. But it really doesn't seem fair to people who aren't as flexible. And honestly, it seems like it would be easier for the T as well to know who they're seeing at, say, 11 am on a Wednesday. So I can understand your frustration. If it doesn't work well for you, maybe keep seeing her while you consider your search for other T's?