So, I have been searching for a new therapist for a couple of weeks and have had difficulties finding anyone suitable who has availability.
I contacted one lady who was a director of a local clinic who sounded perfect but didn’t have any space. However she suggested one of the other therapists who works alongside her as being a good match but it’s a male.
I am not totally against having a male T, I’ve had one in the past, but have since found I seem to work better with a female/female dynamic. That being said I also recognise that the male T I worked with before just wasn’t the right fit for me, I just didn’t realise it until 9 months later!!
I did struggle bringing up certain topics because he was male and there was a huge amount of paternal transference taking place, although being a person centred therapist this wasn’t something he dealt with.
This male T works in a psychodynamic/integrative approach so would possibly have a better understanding of all the stuff that was going on in the room and he is willing to do face to face which is definitely a big plus factor, but I’m just a bit hesitant in case same thing happens all over again.
He’s offered to have an initial session as a reduced rate to see how we get on, so just trying to decide whether I give it a go or continue searching.