I'd give a male T a try. Ex-MC is male and was very gentle, patient, and nurturing. Meanwhile, ex-T, who is female, wasn't so nurturing or gentle. (Current T is male and wasn't particularly nurturing the first couple years, but has been since the pandemic started). So much depends on the personality. I'd think you could get a sense of what they're like from an initial session or two, maybe even from how they present themselves on a website. So I'd look around. Good luck!