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Originally Posted by KLL85
Ah really not sure what to do. I’m not sensing any warmth or compassion in his emails. It’s all very straight to the point and clinical. I NEED to feel kindness and understanding and that just isn’t coming through even though I expressed in my first email to him that I was looking for someone extremely gentle and compassionate. Also a bit concerned about his lack of experience in trauma and attachment. His website states that he has experience with stuff like low self esteem, work place issues, low mood etc. I have a feeling I am going to be way too complex for him to be able to deal with 😕
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I thought that about my T before I saw him. I had seen lots, male and female, but none ever helped me and most made it worse. I think they don't know how to be with you until they get to know you a bit, he might be really capable of the warmth and kindness you need, but not straight away.
My male T was very business like in the beginning and seemed to warm to me when I opened up to him more and more. I feel really close to him now.
I hope he does understand trauma, it's very important. I felt like I was too complex for my T as well, but he seemed to learn as we went along.
But instincts are really important with these things, so I would follow that for sure.