My T is male (and significantly older) and I had reservations at first because I thought I wouldn’t be able to open up to him about some stuff. I also thought he was cold during the first session I had with him, but after getting to know him a little, I found him warm and caring and receptive. He’s welcomed (and used) my paternal transference and I’ve reached a point now where I can tell him almost anything. My relationship with him is healing and very important to me.

As for emails, when he sends something about scheduling, he’s pretty straightforward, to the point and sometimes cold, but in reality he isn’t like that. If I email about a non-scheduling issue, he is reassuring and warmer in his reply.

I’d go to the initial session and see how you feel. People are hard to read over email, you may get a good in person vibe.