I don not think Ts disclosure last nigh or any other time had to do with her getting her needs met. There have been a couple of times she has said things that I disagreed with and were things she did not have experience with such as parenting teens (her child is 5). She realized that she only had book experience in that are and changed her responses after that. I think last nights disclosure was about showing me that how I handled things as a teen were very complex and gave her information to say "it was hard for me as an adult so be gentle with yourself"