I was dx’d asd but my current T and I question it. I do have a ton of sensory issues though. Yes, different people feel different even when they are doing the “same” thing so there is some possible validity there. However, if it is causing you enough concern to bring it up with your T and then post it on here it makes me wonder if you are comfortable with it or not. I am also an adoptive mom. My son was not very affectionate but when he was it did feel different than other kinds of affection. The bond between a mother and child, adopted or not, makes everything feel at least a little different. But again, it sounds like there is something deeper going on here by your level of concern and the doubts of your adoptive mothers dx.