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Originally Posted by hvert
Are you still living with her or near her? Distance could help a lot. I had a similar experience of not recognizing how damaging my mother was until I was an adult. Breaking away from the approval seeking is hard but so worth it in the end.
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I had to do this myself. My mother wasn't as difficult to deal with as it sounds like your mother is, however, if you get some physical distance it can force her to find someone else to focus on and allow you to focus on yourself. I know it sounds selfish, the whole "she can be someone else's problem" aspect but you have to look after you first.