Dear Miguel'smom,

I am so very, very sorry you are in the situation you describe. It is really heartbreaking.

Since I am not a physician or medical professional of any kind, I cannot offer any advice that you are anyone could or should rely upon. The most I can do is share what helps me in full knowledge that what helps one person might not work for another person or even might make them feel worse.

The human brain weighs around 3 pounds and it is amazing. It works 24/7 to keep us alive and healthy. It is even working for us when we are asleep. But it is not an Infinite Being and it can be affected by all kinds of things and it can be hurting. And when it hurts we hurt.
When I am in a situation like the one you describe, I simply speak to my brain mentally and tell it "I love you" over and over again because sometimes it is like a little child in my care and seems to need to hear these words. I learned this from a psychologist and tried it and it works for me.

Often I will feel better after trying to comfort my brain by saying things to it, mentally, like: "I know you are hurting. I am so sorry. I am here for you and I love you. I appreciate all the good things you do for me and I want to be there for you to offer you encouragement and understanding, love and comfort. You are not alone in your suffering. I am here with you too. Whatever hurt you have suffered, I am here for you and I will never leave you. I love you."

When I mentally speak to my brain like this, I find that it usually calms down and that I too feel much better. This is NOT advice to you since I am unqualified to give advice. I am only sharing what helps me personally.

I do hope you find something that brings you some comfort and peace of mind in this ordeal you are going through. I also hope that others here will have better words for you than my poor and empty words. I wish you only the very best! I think you are very noble and courageous and even heroic to be bearing patiently with your brain in its suffering.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen