The only thing you can do is to be there for him and try to understand what he is going through.

My boyfriend has said the same thing about me - he's scared of saying anything that might trigger me off and when I do end up doing it, he thinks that its all his fault... So I understand why you think that you may be causing all this, but if he's been doing it for a while then his reasons will be deeper than that, so don't be so hard on yourself! Do you know what started it in the first place? Does he know how you feel?

If you want to help him, you need to make sure that he knows that your there for him, maybe get him to open up a bit more about it. He needs to know that your always there for him to talk to, and that you will listen in return.

Don't feel like you don't belong in this chatroom - SI affects the people who do it aswell as everyone around them. So if you ever have any problems or questions about it, just give us a post and we will do the best we can to give you answers and support you - its what were here for

There are also some good self injury websites that have help pages for friends and family

much love, babyg xxx