Oh, Beth. I am so sorry. I was thinking about this on my ride, since I am about to reach out to family again. Do you think it is possible that, due to all or wreckage, these people have somehow subconsciously slotted us in with the people who are "a chore" to talk to, to deal with? That, rather than viewing us as ill, they cognitively and formally classify as as, like, problem children? So that, rather than ghosting us, they basically dread us? Is something like that possible?