Thank you all for the advice.

Her dad is calling the school counselor to talk to her. At this point we are kind of using the mother being pregnant and all the changes in the past two years as kind of a starting point. See if counselor (someone outside the immediate family) can get her to open up a little. I think it could just be a possible coping mechanism to deal with all the changes.

I personally worry more about neglect and maybe a little emotional abuse rather than physical abuse. And certainly not from her brother. She is almost as big as her brother and we have seen her defend herself. She has no problem with that.

Right now just sitting back and keeping tabs. I started a journal on my home computer just to keep track and I think it also helps watch for patterns.

As for the back ache. No more complaints from that. So....we will see.