I think we are all perfect. So perfect as humans and life is a learning road. We aren't good or bad. We react and interact with the circumstances according to the tools we have in any moment. All of us influence ones on the others and many reactions to even our loved people are influenced. What matters is to be ourselves and minimize these influences that comes from the outside and don't let us be ourselves.
I don't know if I make sense.
It's not easy to forgive oneself. It requires some kind of distant from one own.