Dear Chocopiano27,

I have often felt similar to what you describe. The human brain is so mysterious. I don't know why it generates the thoughts and feelings that it does. What helps me most is to love my brain whatever it is doing. I literally talk silently to my little brain and try to embrace it with love no matter what it is thinking or feeling. Here in an example:

"I love you little brain even though you are feeling anxious. I love you little brain even though you are now feeling worried about being so anxious. I love you little brain even though you are now feeling bad about being anxious. I love you little brain even though now you are feeling angry at yourself for being worried so much. I love you little brain even though now you are feeling angry that you are angry. I love you little brain now that you are wondering if you are normal. I love you little brain even though you are scared of social situations. I love you little brain now that you are feeling embarrassed by being afraid. I love you little brain even though are you conflicted and having contradictory thoughts. I love you little brain even though you are feeling hopeless about the future."

This is how to talk to my brain. I don't try to push thoughts or feelings away. I try to let my brain generate its thoughts and feelings. And I try to embrace each one with love like one might show love to a little child that was upset. I try to love my brain no matter what with unconditional love. This generally helps me feel stronger and better.

Since I am not a physician or medical professional I cannot recommend this however. I am thoroughly unqualified to give advice that you or anyone could or should rely upon. It is best to see a professional therapist when one is stuck in distressing situations. I am only sharing what helps me personally in full knowledge that what helps one person might hurt another or not work.

I hope you find something that helps you. The technique that I share with you was taught to me by a psychotherapist but like I said I am not a psychotherapist and therefore cannot offer any advice.

I wish you only the best.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen