DECOMPRESS

M. Need to vent

C. Go for it. What’s on your mind?

M. I’m f’ing pissed at f’ing G. F*** him

C. What happened?

M. He didn’t respond to my email. But it’s not just that. I’m just sick and tired at how f’ing arrogant he is. He’s a f’ing hypocrite

C. How so?

M. He claims to be super C, but lacks the primary virtue of being a C - humility.

C. Go on

M. He gave me some BS last week about not promoting PM because he didn’t know what to say. F*** him!

C. Do you want some advice?

M. Please

C. Get this off your chest the next time you speak with him. Be kind but firm/assertive.

M. I want to maintain the friendship but need to be candid about my concerns with him.

C. Also, just use this as fuel for motivating you to do what needs to get done

M. Go on

C. All great competitors in sports have a chip on their shoulder. Nothing wrong with that so long as you use this energy in a constructive way.

M. My challenge is that I think about him a lot and that I get riled up every time I do.

C. Here’s my advice. Do something constructive every time you do. For example, do a quick set of curls or isometric reps. Do deep breathing + other relaxation stuff. Look for a motivational quote on Pinterest and write it down. Look at a proverb and write it down. Drink a big glass of water. In other words, use the angry thought to trigger a positive and enriching behavior. Make sense?

M. Yep. It does

C. You made great progress today. Excellent job getting up early and working on SPM. You got after it right away. Now I’d like you to practice the d___.

M. Okay

C. Drink water. Take your vitamins. Do a quick set of dumbbell reps. Tidy up. Do a deep breathing session. Log your stuff. Then get after it. Okay?

M. Sounds good. Thanks!

C. You got it.