Thanks, Artie. I really wonder if that's actually the biggest thing that's bothering me, not some of the other stuff. When he said that, I did mention @@'s T telling her she should spend more time with her nonexistent daughter.

On a different note, I realized in thinking about it more last night that it's also that I feel he's contributed to my becoming more dependent on him lately. In allowing what he ha allowed--no-charge emails, texts for stuff beyond scheduling (I only did a couple of those though), an extra session a week at a reduced price, self-disclosing more, etc. And I'm wondering if he has a plan to help me become less dependent, or if he's just suddenly going to be like, "OK, things are back to normal!"

And will *he* shift back to being more like he was before, less empathetic and letting more of his a**hole side come out? But then, I think that side of him helped keep my dependence and transference stuff more in check... Or is this just me struggling with someone seeming caring toward me?