Abusive? Should have left him a long time ago. On the other hand, I would just not press the issue of the sexist video anymore. You find it sexist, he does not and you won't change his mind, so you have to stop trying to change his thinking otherwise it will only upset you. The thing I have learnt from being married in the past is not to pick on the smallest things because then they lead to actions like not kissing you goodbye when you go to work, or just being cold and distant. I am sorry you have been so upset.