Ok, these two incidents go back years and aren’t “serious” but still play on my mind and are still annoying to think about (lack of justice in one, the second a bit of a mind screw perhaps).
1. October 2011, went into the bank to check my account. Got told to join back of line by a woman who had been standing so far from the line, talking to someone else, that she couldn’t be mistaken for someone waiting to use a machine (only noticed her in the first place because she had a bright red coat on). I did try and point out she hadn’t been in the queue so I wasn’t pushing in, but she didn’t really accept it. When I got to the front, someone from another line (who must have heard her and randomly decided to also mess with me, or was her friend) literally leapt in front of me to use the ATM (when they could have used the one they’d been waiting for...). Frustrated, I just went outside instead.
2. Can’t remember date but it was a few years afterwards. Went with family to a charity event and got left alone on our table while they went to look round (it was basically voting for the best looking cake. Yes, really!). Anyway, the old lady sitting there started asking disdainfully whose things were on the chairs and I thought she was going to try throwing my mum’s bag somewhere. I tried asking her to have some patience and at least wait until my family got back, but got ignored. I was getting really anxious and felt utterly humiliated by this woman’s complaining about our stuff being there and not being listened to - all the tables were crowded, which wasn’t the fault of anyone paying to come in. This lady also had someone with her who I assumed was her carer, who said nothing while she was ranting. She went quiet when my sister in law came back, but why did she think it was ok to do that to me?
Nobody I’ve told these things to seemed to really get why I found them upsetting - both cases were a basic lack of respect towards me when I hadn’t actually done anything to deserve “pushback”, so to speak. Lining up in a bank and trying to share a table meant for around 6 people are reasonable things to do, right? I do feel it’s silly to still feel irritated by them, but at the same time there must be a reason they keep popping into my head?
I guess I really just want to hear that I’m justified in feeling annoyed, angry etc for how these people behaved towards me.