it concerns me some.. i just dont think a T should direct where things should go.. the client has to *need* to go there themselves. Me suggesting XH go to anger managment is futile, even if he went.. until HE feels he needs to do it.

of course.. mckell, you've been quite vocal about not expressing emotions in therapy, so maybe she can't entirely tell where you are at with this. Asking her directly is a good suggestion. And yes, if you are truly ok with it then you should not have a collapse in trying to ask.

i have trouble with this idea of "ego states." i haven't found any information about that idea which explains it well. (and i am looking for research-based stuff) i wish Alex hadn't left, she's great for information like this. No offense intended to anyone, I am genuinely curious.