It sounds like you did not feel heard in either of these situations. And also by the ppl you've told about these situations. I wonder if it made you feel powerless and frustrated. That's a really painful feeling. Maybe you need some kind of closure, however "small" or "silly" you or other people may feel about your feelings about the situation. If you are a nice person, and someone is disrespectful back, that hurts. Anyway, you're not crazy.