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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo
Does he understand the function of therapy? This is a really naïve thing for him to ask. Friendship isn't therapy. And how can he know your internal world better than you know it yourself? He seems very confident about dismissing your experience, where is his curiosity?
For me, my young aspect is far more than a manifestation of my attachment wound. She is also playful, brave, creative. She can be hurt, wrongfooted, ignored. She is alone but she will seek out love, sometimes.
He is missing large parts of your character by not taking the time to look at your child and what you are bringing to the relationship with him.
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Thanks for the comments. Part of what was so difficult about his reaction is that I felt it was this "aha!" moment for me, this great insight. Like why I was reaching out to *him* in that moment and what role he was playing for me at the time.
He may not like to use the term "child part," but I sort of feel like if I want to refer to it that way, if it's easier for me to understand/talk about, then he should follow the client's lead. I think part of it is he tends to seem uncomfortable anytime I talk about anything sort of paternal toward him--not sure if it's partly that he's only 7 years older than me.
He did say he thinks it's more "insecure attachment" than "child part." But then a minute later, he was talking about developmental stages in a child, how one is determining whether the world is a safe vs. scary place. And he thinks, because of what I missed in childhood, that I'm still working through some of those developmental stages. So...wouldn't that mean the "child part" makes total sense??? (Wish I'd called him on it in that moment...)
Actually, I think that second part may have been Tuesday (moved up session by a day).