After watching you go through the pain of three separate therapists and their boundaries, I agree with him. I don’t say this blamingly, I think you’re just wired in such a way that you really need to know where you stand with someone. Given that, I can think of few relationships more likely to trigger that lack of satisfaction than a therapeutic relationship.

(One reason I stay with Info, to the mystification of many here, is I don’t want anything more from her than being a therapist I see occasionally. Not friendship, not love, not mothering. Nice change from therapists like No. 3.)

If you look for another therapist, I agree with trying a woman. I know you think the transference is mainly paternal/male authority figure, but in a number of your posts here (not just the ones about sex dreams) it comes across as strongly erotic. So I wonder if that doesn’t also play a role in the lack of satisfaction with boundaries. Maybe a woman closer to your age to help avoid maternal transference, with whom you don’t have much in common or whom you wouldn’t want to be friendly with irl. Not that that might not happen anyway, but it might be a better place to start.