LT...I am curious about your reasons for therapy in the first place? You don't have to answer but it might be helpful to think about. What are your goals? Are you looking for a friend, someone to lean on, someone to validate you, someone to agree with you? Or are you looking to improve your life, feel less anxiety, and/or learn the skills needed to live comfortably on your own in real life?

I am not trying to be judgmental, my T always tells me to just look at the facts. From what I observe in your posts, I see that you often post about your T not saying what you wanted him too. This upsets you and results in emails and extra sessions. I have no idea what goes on in the session, but you post that your T often changes his stance which makes you happy again. I observe that you sign your posts with Love, LT when you state T validated you or made you feel cared for. When he does not give the response you wanted, there is no Love added.

I only bring up these observations (and this is my opinion, not fact) because it appears to me that your goal in T is to have someone to validate you and make you feel cared for, someone who agrees with you. I of course do not know you goals, but I know that the role of a T is not to tell us that everything we think, feel and want are as it should be. A T should be helping you improve yourself and helping you deal with life in the real world. This is not accomplished by agreeing with everything we do or adjusting their boundaries or opinions to make us feel better. The more your T has continued to give in to you the more attached you become and the more you expect from him. Real life does not work like that. Everyone is not going to say what you want or change their actions or opinions to satisfy your needs. Maybe that is why you are so attached. He is the only you can (sorry I can't think of a nicer word) control/manipulate into giving you what you feel you need. Is this really helpful? You have said many times that your are trying to decrease drinking but then you say your T told you to go out and have a beer. I understand the need to get out in public and do things, but that seems kind of self defeating.

I am sorry to be blunt and feel free to ignore everything I have said. It just pains me to see you reliving the same issues year after year. I am sure my desires for you are totally different than your own. I know I would like to see you be able to deal with life's dissapointments without so much anxiety. This is possible but only if a T pushes you out of your comfort zone and you allow it to happen. This would only be an option if it is truly what you want. I guess that is why I ask you to think about what you are really looking for in T.