What would you want him to do really? Keeping his boundaries and for example not giving you extra sessions and reminding you to keep his boundaries? It doesn't seem to work with you, it makes you anxious and thinking that he doesn't care or understand. And you don't respect his boundaries anyway, like you mentioned texting him anyway, even if he said it is his boundary.

But when he is trying to accomodate your needs with many sessions, letting you text etc. you are not happy but accuse him of making you dependant. Also when he doesn't self disclose, you get upset, and when he does, you get upset?

I'm honestly confused if you want him to be more distant with text, appointments and self disclosure or more relaxed and accommondating for your needs and wishes?