I don't think the issue is that he changed his boundaries as I think some flexibility and responding to what a client needs at different times is good. I think the issue here is him saying suddenly that he is going to take it (the support and extra contact) away after COVID....It's jarring.. and almost triggering for someone with abandonment issues (not saying you have but I know I do and that's how I'd respond to that) ...It might have perhaps been helpful if he had outlined his boundary changes at the start...i.e I will allow more contact just during COVID as I know things are more difficult for you right now and I want to be able to give you more support but once things settle down again with COVID I will have to reign it back to what we are doing now or something like that or even just brought the topic up more gently and included you in the conversation. It also feels like he has all the control and you have none (yes I know thats the dynamic of the therapist client relationship) but it could have been a more collaborative conversation where you felt you had some input.....

My T gave me a little bit more (i.e a reduced rate) and more in between session contact at the beginning of COVID when I lost my job and when everything was shut down and I needed more support . She did however say that it could only be for a short while so I knew it would have to end at some point. I have now started back at work again and we have now gone back to how things were. Even though the decision really fully rested with her she somehow made it feel like I had an input. It was extermely difficult at first and it's oh so frustrating as I want to see her more but I'm slowly getting used to the boundary again. It will however take time I am sure.

The fact he gave you more support highlights that he does care about you LT and wants to help YOU. He also may have done it because he is a therapist who wants to help and support all of his clients in times of crisis . Those two things can exist together. He now seems to be wearing his therapist hat more again, I think lots of people, therapsits included, started to soften more especially at the start of COIVD (in all walks of life as they realised our collective humanity and how there is lots we can't control) ....

It seems you don't always trust in the relationship or the care which is again totally understandable given your past experiences and perhaps even your childhood ones. It can take years for someone who has difficulty trusting to regain that sense of trust in others. It seems here that you had started to trust him and the relationship but him saying what he said has wiped that all out for you. Again understandable.....But him wanting to reign things in a little again does not mean he doesn't care. Consistency and clarity here though would have been helpful..I don't know I'm beginning to ramble again...I wouldn't just run away to another T without discussing things more with Dr T though and hearing what he has to say.. There could be benefit to sticking with him and working through it....In the long term though I just think he doesn't really 'get it' the attachment stuff that is and you may do better with a more relational T who gives you a little bit more and is able to hold all of you feelings with clear, consistent boundaries and help you realise that you are not too much.