It's a hard call. Only you can make the decision that you think is best for you.

I will say this: I did not like T when I first met her. Our very first session, she double booked me. Then I was still hoping to go back to ex-T (for aome unknown reason). One day I actually told T I hated her. She told me that when I say such things it makes it difficult for her to want to work with me. Ouch! I told her I was searching for a new T. She volunteered to help me...lol. I stuck it out with her for a little while, however I could not find a T I liked. So we just continued. And she grew on me. I think I stayed with her for 4 years before her maternity leave? We had a few ruptures, but we always worked things out. Even L and I have had a few ruptures. We had one this week! But we've gotten so good at repairing them that this time only took 2 days.

My point is: maybe it's best to work through this with your T. Maybe that's what you need? Not to give up and run away, but to assert yourself and work together to make amends. Idk.

Or...maybe just try out one new T to get the feel of things. Take a small break from Dr. T?

I know this from T and L. A good therapist will want whatever is best for their client. If the client thinks another T is better, they shouldn't take it personally or try to stop their client. They should support them and make the transition easier. And like T did for me, they should leave their doors open. L said she would do the same. And actually, T and L still communicate about me together. I allow it because T is still a part of my team even if she's not actively my therapist.

I'm sorry for posting so much about my experience. I'm in no way trying to take over your thread. The only advice I can give is based off of my experiences. I understand our situations are different and knowing mine may not be helpful. So ignore if it's unhelpful. Do what's best for you!