Thanks for the info, Perna. I'll ask my lawyer. What I know so far about my divorce (we haven't filed yet) is that:

1) I will be the petitioner and he will be the respondent. (This is important to me as I strongly want out of this marriage and it feels empowering to me to be the petitioner. at one point in the process my H's lawyer changed this without telling anyone to have us both be petitioners. GRRRRR. My lawyer made him change it back. Just check with us first, buddy.)
2) we will file for divorce jointly, called a "joinder" (saves legal fees for one thing)
3) I have never been asked what grounds I had by either my lawyer or his, so I am assuming we are doing no fault. If they need a reason, they can use adultery! (I just looked it up online, and there is only no fault divorce in 15 states and mine is one of them. It sure makes life simpler. When you get a divorce, there are so many other issues, I'm glad this isn't another one for me. Divorce is painful and gutwrenching enough as it is!) Link to table of states' grounds for divorce (at bottom of page): link
4) there is no minimum time of separation requirement here
5) alimony here is determined by the length of the marriage. The standard is 1 year alimony for every 4-5 years of marriage. (I am not sure I will take alimony as my lawyer thinks I should pursue a larger settlement instead.) It is unheard of here to give alimony for life!!!

Perna, that really sounds like a pain just to have to move to a different county to do your H's divorce. I'm glad it is all behind you.