He told you that he charges for emails to prevent him from feeling resentful (or something along those lines). I would have understood that to mean that emailing is not an activity he enjoys. I probably would have assumed that anyway, though, since I don't know anyone who welcomes doing stuff for work during time they would otherwise have for themselves.

I do feel that Dr. T has been careless or perhaps lacking in the strength to say no to you when he's relaxed so many boundaries.

Sometimes my therapist says things that I don't love to hear. For example, she said a few weeks ago that she wouldn't want to do teletherapy from her house because she basically wouldn't like clients seeing it. This came up when I was talking about how a handwritten letter talking about the so-called end days from some stranger felt intrusive. She said she thought she understood how I felt and then made the disclosure. I already thought she felt that way, but I still didn't like hearing about theoretical client intrusiveness. Another time, she made a comment about how she was sad about being stuck inside on such a beautiful day. So it was like, sorry you're stuck inside doing a session with me... And one time a couple months ago, she canceled a session because she wasn't feeling well.
I asked if she thought she had COVID and she said no, she was just feeling really stressed due to work. I think she was just trying to be reassuring since she knows I worry she's going to get COVID and die (and given the wide spectrum of symptoms, anything else she said I probably would have taken as a harbinger of COVID). But it still didn't feel great knowing she felt like she just couldn't deal with me that day or something. And she has thanked me on multiple occasions when I've mentioned not texting her even though I wanted to. I do like that she is appreciative of me being considerate and controlling my impulses, but it's not 100% wonderful being thanked for not having contact with someone.

I'm not sure why I related all that, but I guess I think that the comments all just confirmed what I already basically knew - not because she said anything to hint, but because I put myself in her shoes and come to conclusions based on how people typically feel and how I myself would feel. I wonder why you never thought that answering emails is something he would rather not do - like why that revelation was such a shock when it seems like common sense. I know I'm sounding really judgey right now, and that's not my intention. I just don't know how to say what I want to say in a way that doesn't sound critical (or worse, holier-than-thou which would honestly be a joke).