It sounds like you did a good job of figuring out the guidelines with L. I hope your talk goes well. Could you maybe come up with some sort of signal or code word if you need to take a break or feel triggered? Even just like the timeout signal with your hands, or holding up a hand like "stop"?

I've talked about a fair amount of sexual stuff with Dr. T (also with ex-T and ex-MC, but it was always terribly awkward with ex-MC). One of the things was a sort of fetish that I've only told a few people about. But it was like I needed to know that he still accepted me and didn't think I was gross or weird. Is it sort of like that with L, maybe?

With that, I actually ended up sharing what it was and a few details about it over email because I figured it would be difficult to get out in session. I also figured that way, if he did think it was really strange, he could react to it reading the email instead of getting a look of horror or disgust in front of me when I first told him. He did confirm in the email that he didn't think I was "bizarre."

We then went on to have a good discussion about it in session. He listened, asked some questions, and I felt OK about it. He tends to be very matter-of-fact about sexual things (uses the actual words vs. slang, for example), and in this situation, it made it easier to talk about. Actually, in most situations involving sex it does as well.

I hope it goes well with you and L and that you feel better after disclosing everything. From what you've said about her, I imagine she'll be very accepting and supportive.