This thing about liking/not liking/resenting outside contact came up with my main T (Liz) yesterday. I told her that I am sometimes slightly annoyed when my students contact me, as I would rather not have to answer a bunch of emails. (I teach a course as an adjunct sometimes.) She said that in her experience, having that kind of contact as a professor and as a therapist are two very different things. (She has taught courses for therapists in training in the past.) She said she isn't always like, "HOORAY! IT'S MANATEE!" because sometimes she is busy, but she said that she wants to be there for me and to help me feel like I have supportive, helpful people in my life. Maybe it's easier because usually she prefers phone calls to email, so it's just extra talking, rather than writing? So maybe she's an outlier or a workaholic, but apparently not all therapists see outside contact as a chore.
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