I hope it goes well and you get what you're looking for.

I do talk to my therapist about sex, as problems arising from sexual abuse are the reason I am in therapy. I've also talked to her about current sexual relationships, because they haven't been very healthy, either. She can be kind of judgemental, tbh, not about the sexual abuse but about things I've chosen to do. This doesn't really bother me personally most of the time. Her judgement comes from concern, and I'm not sure how she could express her view that I'm harming myself and "acting out past abuse" without disclosing a judgement. Deep down, I guess I've agreed with her and since I didn't actually enjoy the things I did, her response did not make me feel ashamed.

I don't feel triggered by most of the words that I use to talk about sex. I can think of maybe two that I hate saying and avoid if possible, and one which I refuse to say. It's hard to pinpoint why I have difficulty with the former and the latter is due to shame. I suppose the former could also be shame, but it doesn't feel quite like that. Perhaps it is embarrassment arising from societal programming rather than my own beliefs. The therapist uses words that I find somewhat triggering, but I prefer that she not dance around such words because I think (for me) that I would perceive that as a signal that the topic is indeed something I should feel embarrassed or ashamed about. I inwardly flinch when she says certain words, but it's not beyond my window of tolerance and her doing so reassures me that she is ok talking about this stuff and I am allowed to talk about it.