It sounds like you are stuck in this same cycle. Rupture and repair can be valuable if it leads somewhere but is it? You want what you want from t and when he can't give it you threaten to leave. My question is, how is this serving you ??

You can leave it is always your right, you can stay and focus on getting what you want. He cannot be anything other than the therapist he is. So you either accept that and carry on or accept it and move on. Why keep bashing him over the head for everything he isn't?? What are you avoiding? What are you gaining?