This is an interesting question I think, not just regarding your responses, but regarding his too. It seems to me that he does a fair amount of bashing you over the head for what you aren't. Your descriptions of his rules (distinct from his boundaries); your unmet needs; his lack of emotional and theoretical understanding, all remind me of a parent yelling at a child when they are crying and in pain. It seems to me that he wants you to be a different client in a similar way to the times when you want him to be a different therapist.