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Originally Posted by Salmon77
I'm wondering why email is so important. I mean, obviously you like to write a lot, and it's good to get the thoughts out on paper/screen/etc, and it's good to feel like somebody's listening. But it also seems to be the source of a lot of stress and anxiety (is he going to write back, why hasn't he written yet, how long is his answer, is it adequate, did he want to write or was it a chore etc. etc.) and misunderstandings. Can't help but think it might be better to just talk in session and avoid a bunch of unnecessary complications.
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I think I just like having some sort of outside contact or the ability to schedule an extra session. I guess it's just I'm used to having the outside contact for the last like 7 years (didn't really email ex-T till a couple years in), so would be hard to go cold turkey. Especially if it went from 3 sessions a week and outside contact to 1 session a week and no outside contact. it's like I'd want to be able to wean down. I can just have trouble sitting with feelings, and I know that's a skill I need to work on. But it's also easier (in the case of a difficult or upsetting session) if I know I'm having another session in 2 days vs. in 6 days.
I think the T I'm supposed to meet with Wednesdays does have the option of longer sessions (listed on website--60 or 90 minutes), so depending on his schedule, that could be a possibility and could be easier for me as a transition if it had to be once a week.
I suppose you're right, that the best thing ultimately for me would be no outside contact at all. But again, I think cold turkey would be extremely hard, especially when I'm struggling more than usual due to the pandemic (with fewer outside support/coping options).